Married men addicted to internet dating
And even when I let it out of my chest, it wasn’t love. Telling someone you love them doesn’t mean that you do.
Hello Jo Ann, I found your website a couple of days ago and am so glad I found it.
I have been with my husband for 5 1/2 years and we met while I was in university. Together, from the outside, we must look like the perfect couple. 3 years ago, while we still lived in the US, I found out something extremely shocking.
I just found out about my husband’s secret earlier this week.
I am emotionally drained, but I am hoping that by sharing my story, I will feel at least a little better.
I wanted to tell her on the first date, but I knew that would probably be weird. She kind of gave me this half-shy, half-amused smile. But as time has gone on, I also realized that she knew something that I didn’t. I tried so hard to keep that fire going, to keep that emotion alight, but it got harder and harder. And what was even more interesting was that once I realized this on a conscious level, and started trying to find more opportunities to give, the more we both, almost intuitively, became lovey-dovey. From the excitement of dating a woman I felt like I could marry. Imagine a whole nation of people constantly chasing the emotions they had when they were dating. That’s a recipe for disastrous marriages; for a country with a 50% divorce rate; for adultery (the classic attempt to turn the fire back on); for people who do stay together to simply live functional, loveless marriages. How many people are in pain simply because they’ve been lied to.
Like most Hasidic Jews (we both became religious later in life), our dating period lasted a very short time. I mean, how you can feel that burning love when you’re sitting at the table discussing how to use the last twenty dollars in your bank account? How can you feel it when you think it makes perfect sense to put your socks on the floor after you’re done with them, and she has this crazy idea that they need to go in the laundry basket? And now, as I’m a bit older and a bit more experienced with this relationship, I’ve finally come to realize something.
The email was flirtatious and inappropriate, and I’m confident that had I never caught it, he would go right back to what he was doing with craigslist. I told him that he had a problem and he denied that he has a problem because he doesn’t do it very often.